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Unexpected Sadness…


January 2014

Between bowling yesterday and heading into the office today I was hit with an empty feeling that I just can’t quite put my finger on.  I certainly understand it, first day after the funeral, first day back to work…  The funny thing is that I half-expected that I’d simply be okay – with all of the time that we had through my dad’s deterioration I assumed I’d be more prepared than I turned out to be… 

Apparently this is going to take a little more work than I thought.

Fortunately, I know the formula:  One day at a time, the next right thing at any given moment.  Rinse and repeat.  Say my prayers, eat my vitamins, and ride like I can make the wheels fall off.


  1. elisariva says:

    Since I lost my mom three years ago I find there at unexpected times I really miss her. I don’t know if it will ever go away, she will always be with me. What I do believe is the absence doe not lessen with time, we just learn to deal with it better. That said, there may always be times when the grief just overcomes. Face it and let it pass.

  2. I feel you brother, I made the same mistake; February 8 will mark one year since we lost our son Oliver. It does take time.

    Ride those wheels off.

  3. sueslaght says:

    Be gentle with yourself. Whether you knew your Dad was deteriorating or not, his passing is a huge loss. Take time and indeed, ride the wheels off.

  4. zoeforman says:

    You know the theory but you also need time to grieve and move on. Don’t force it.

  5. Kecia says:

    Take the time that you need to properly heal and then you can begin to move forward. One day at a time…One foot in front of the other.

  6. tischcaylor says:

    Hang in there. All your devoted readers are behind you on this…

  7. Chatter says:

    Take it easy and all will be ok. It is a hard thing you are going through right now.

  8. isaac976 says:

    I’ve been feeling sad for no reason too.. I am not sure and I dont understand why, but you have a reason for this feeling.. I am sure you will be fine after all everything will be fine in the end.

  9. masitim says:

    Hi Jim, I have been away for a bit and just caught up with your posts. Sorry to see your Father passed. Great posts of your thoughts and events, as always. I understand your feeling. Sunday was 24 years since my Dad passed suddenly. The Lord’s Prayer takes me right there to this day. Just stick to your formula. Take Care, Tim

  10. gaibrow says:

    I lost my ma a few years ago and I used to feel empty all of the time; meditation, yoga and listening to The Beatles (she was a beatles fan) helped me a lot. I think if you try to enjoy little things, even if you can feel good for just a minute, it gives you hope and makes you feel a little less empty. x

  11. One day at a time is what it takes as you know so well Jim. Remember that our loves one would not want us to dwell on their death too long. I am sure they would all want us to live our lives to the fullest and to take pleasure in the things we enjoy the most. May you go through several sets of rubber this biking season in his memory.

  12. The Guat says:

    It is extremely tough to lose a parent no matter what the circumstances. But glad you’re familiar with the find-your-way-back formula. It does take time so hope you’re doing better.

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