Typically, I don’t do the blog awards much anymore because I take them seriously, and done correctly they take a lot of time. If you know me, I don’t have much in the way of time now that I’m back to work (!). A week ago, I could have rocked this post out in a day.
That said, I unquestionably appreciate being recognized as consequential to the blogosphere by Anna at Storm in a Wine Glass. So these are her questions for me:
- What makes you cry of joy? When my two teenage daughters heard that I’d be going back to work after six weeks of being at home, they each gave me a hug and said that they’d miss having me around the house. The youngest even got a little misty. Folks, after a month and a half at home, my kids don’t want to shoo me out the door? Well it doesn’t get much better than that… except it does. Mrs. Bgddy said the same thing.
- Favorite book and why? Heh, the Big Book of AA. No Big Book, no recovery, no me. I’m worm food twenty years ago without recovery – my liver was givin’ ‘er all she’s got, Captain and that wasn’t enough. While it is possible I’d have found another way to quit drinking, I love the way I chose and it works for me.
- Describe your perfect moment of the day. There are a few… First, coming home and being greeted by my wife like I’m a long lost friend finally returned from being marooned on a deserted island. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does, it’s perfect. Hugs from my daughters, another perfect moment. When I think about cruising down the road riding with my friends, be it fast or moderate, there are 50 perfect moments every time I ride one of my bicycles, and that’s why I like it so much.
- Your best quality? I know how unimportant I really am, no matter how awesome I may be.
- Is there anything you struggle with that you’re continuously working on overcoming? Nicotine. Mother***er, nobody ever told me you smoke one cigarette and spend the rest of your life wanting another. Same for chewing tobacco… However, as long as I don’t pick up I won’t have to quit again, and for that I am grateful. Sometimes, that’s the only thing that keeps me from the nicotine train.
- The best piece of advice you ever received? Now this is a tough question because I’ve received a lot of great advice over the years, between recovery and marriage counseling… but I can do this. The best single piece of advice I ever received was from an old sponsor who has since passed away. My wife and I, while we were trying to figure out how our relationship would work, we’d get into power struggle fights from time to time. I would get pissed and climb into my truck, peel out of the driveway and tear off down the street… whilst dialing the number of my sponsor. The first time I called him in a huff, he listened to me rant, until I got entirely through my side of what happened. He then asked if I was done and when I answered in the affirmative, he said, “Jimmy [he was one of three people who could get away with calling me “Jimmy”], sometimes you want to throw them like a lawn dart, but you just gotta love ’em.” I jumped in, “But Mike…” and he cut me off. “Jimmy, you just gotta love ’em.” And every time I tried to add to the story he’d cut me off. “Jimmy, you just gotta love ’em. So, whenever I fight with my wife or daughters, what do I think about, even though he’s been gone for years? “Jimmy, sometimes you want to throw them like a lawn dart, but you just gotta love ’em.” And so I do. I love ’em, and I do what’s right. Best piece of advice I’ve ever been given in a whole lifetime full of good advice.
- Describe what ‘hope’ means to you. I live “hope”. I know, through alcoholism and drug addiction, exactly what it’s like to live in hell and I was able to emerge from that clean. That’s not hope, though. That’s recovery.
- What is the bravest thing you’ve ever done? For the record – I mean true bravery! Doing a sky dive isn’t brave if it doesn’t scare you. Bravery is doing something that scares the shit out of you! Staying in treatment the first two weeks. That’s when I made the decision to quit fighting and recover. I went from wanting to get drunk one day to having the compulsion removed the next. It was a small miracle.
- What did Little You want to be when he/she grew up? An actor.
- Looking at a photo of Little You, what advice would you give him/her? Do push-ups. Lots and lots of push-ups. They’ll work. And “you’re a lot better looking than you give yourself credit for. Look at yourself with kinder eyes.”
- ….and what advice would Little You give the you of here and now? Little me would look at big me and hopefully feel the happiness and freedom I feel on a daily basis, he would look at my wife and my kids and see how they look at me, us, and he’d say, “Holy shit, man. You made it.” And he’d be right. And I thank God for that each and every day.
I’m not going to nominate other bloggers, per se, though I’ll list a few I respect and if they choose to answer the same questions above, well they’ve been awarded the Liebster Award, too.