I recently read three quotes on two different blogs spinning being consistently late and making other people wait as some noble exercise.
Punctuality is the thief of time, they say. I’ll be five minutes later than you think I’ll be, is another.
Here’s one of my own: “I’ll have left five minutes before your five minutes later… and I won’t be seeing you again with your attitude because next up in your life’s progression is psychopath. Good luck with that.
Psychopath is too strong a word, you say? Let’s see what Merriam & Webster have to say about this:
a person having an egocentric and antisocial personality marked by a lack of remorse for one’s actions, an absence of empathy for others, and often criminal tendencies
The only thing left after “the thief of time” is criminal tendencies, folks. Do you want to be around for that? That’s a shit show I’d rather see on the news than up close and personal!
Being ten minutes late, consistently, is a manipulative display of childish dominance and aggression. And friends, you don’t need that in your life when it can be avoided. People who can’t smell that they’ve shit their pants in the form of being chronically late are better handled by someone who has an inordinate amount of joy and happiness to spare. The chronically late are rarely forthright enough to let you know why they’re always late. In fact, they’re so weak, most will make excuses rather than give you “punctuality is the thief of time” because they know most well adjusted, decent people won’t have the time for such horse shit.
Best to leave psychopaths to the doctors. Either that or make them wait… and don’t be weak like them. Drop the “punctuality is the thief of time” quote on them. Maybe you can make it a contest and see who can be later till you get to a point neither shows up. That’d be a hoot. In fact, if you handle this properly, I’d bet you find out that punctuality is only the thief of time when it cuts one way.
The other way to handle this is to lie, honestly. Tell the person they have to be wherever fifteen minutes early. They can be their ten minutes late and still be right on time. Technically, fifteen minutes is right on time, but let’s start with baby steps.