I was out on a bike ride with my friend, Chucker last evening trying to come up with something to do for my wife for our 25th wedding anniversary.
We’ve gone through a complete transformation of our marriage in the last two months. We went from being committed and together to something truly special. We, almost simultaneously, went from battling each other to “win”, to doing the least amount of damage possible in a disagreement and negotiating for peace. We went from both of us losing to working things out to a level of satisfaction that was previously rare at best. From there, we were able to love each other more deeply than I thought was possible. It’s scary, I won’t lie, but it’s good.
My biggest regret is that I didn’t start this sooner. But it takes what it takes to get us where we need to be, so I’ll have to find a way to make my peace with it.
That line of thought led me to an idea. While Chucker and I were heading around our normal loop, I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do for my wife for our 25th anniversary. Now, she’s exceedingly particular about jewelry, so another ring is out. Her wrists are taken up with bracelets she likes, and she’s got quite a few necklaces. That got me to thinking; the events that have unfolded over the last couple of months are a small miracle. Going forward, things are going to be very different. The changes we’ve made are built on an entirely new, solid, foundation that began with our Higher Power (we call that HP God to keep it simple).
I made a lot of mistakes in the first 25 years. I built up protective walls that seemed like a good idea at the time but got in the way of loving my wife fully. They needed to be torn down. Once they were gone I realized just how much better I could have been to my wife and kids. “Should have” might be better. That realization changed me to my core and our marriage changed for the infinitely better almost immediately.
We have come to a place where I know for a fact, the next 25 years are going to be much better than the first 25. And so the next thought brought a smile to my face that lasted the rest of the night.
I could ask my wife to marry me again to start the next 25 years so I can give her the marriage she deserves. Not just good or passable, but great.
And so I asked my wife to marry me again in front of her dad and our daughters. Down on one knee, just like it should be done. I promised her the next 25 years would be much better than the first.
She said yes with happy tears in her eyes.
Thank you, my friend.
This is magnificent. Your capacity for self-awareness and sharing that gift with your wife is a genuine treasure. Wishing you both a very happy anniversary – and a magnificent next 25!
Thank you for that fine compliment! Magnificent would be perfect. Thank you.
Maybe a tandem wedding ceremony??
Tandem after-ride ceremony for sure! LOL!
How romantic! Are you going to renew your vows?
New, better vows. Yes.
Beautiful ❤️ You’re lucky to have each other 😊
We are, indeed.
Ohhh, this is so sweet! So romantic! And such a great goal you’ve made to be an even better husband and to make your marriage even better than before! I know your wife loves you more for this lovely gesture! 🥰🥰🥰
Best wishes on your Anniversary and for the next 25 years.
Man, that’s awesome!, Congratulations on your anniversary.
Thank you! I’m pretty excited.
Twenty five years, congratulations to you both that’s awesome. Woot! Wedding time! Is my invite in the post? 😁
In the post?! Why bother with the postage! You’re absolutely invited, brother!
Good shout! Congratulations.
Thanks, my friend. I appreciate it.
What a nice couple