Having a penchant for being blindly self-centered, I have a little cheat that helps me remember that I’m a part of a team today.

Every Thursday at 1:00 in the afternoon, I have a reminder that pops up that says, “What nice thing can I do for Jess today?”

I’ve started driving home, only to turn back around and head back to my wife’s office to blare our wedding song on my phone as I held it above my head, standing outside the door (that one was a winner – WHAM!). I’ve stopped by the flower store a few times. I stopped by the bakery and picked up the most ridiculously decadent chocolate cake I could find. Most times it’s something simple, just to let her know I was thinking of her. Maybe folding the clothes before she gets home, or going the extra mile in getting dinner ready.

I’ve never missed a Thursday in eleven months. Almost a full year, now.

If you want to know how to let your spouse know they’re special and loved, I can’t think of any better way. Try it. You’ll like it.